Blog // 07.12.2011

But I don't wanna!

Article by Abena A-T

Have you ever had to do something that made you feel like a stubborn 11 year-old because you really didn’t want to do it? It may be writing that 10 page essay that’s worth 40% of your final grade in your least favorite subject or inviting someone you really don’t like to a party because it’s nice to and everyone else is invited and they really want to be your friend.

What do you do when the situation is forcing you to go against your stubborn natural desire? Well my friends, I’m afraid sometimes you have to suck it up and just do it.  There are times in life we must rise above our nature.  Doing so can help you build character. It can also stop this “thing” from slouching in the back of your mind  (or the front of your mind if it’s a major paper for school) and nagging you.

One thing that works for me is to stop thinking. Stop reading too much into a situation.  Stop thinking of what you’re gonna say to this person you haven’t spoken to in years. Stop creating a disastrous scenario in your mind that results from doing this “thing” and playing it over and over in your mind.  I just make myself stop thinking, and do. As If I’m a robot. Yes, pretending to be a robot actually helps in life sometimes.  Being a robot allows you to separate yourself from the emotions swirling around the action or situation you’re trying to avoid.  Then once you’ve made some tangible progress, and there’s no turning back, you can turn your human self back on and fine-tune the details- think of what to say after you’ve made the call, confront your thoughts about this person you don’t like: maybe they’re not so bad, maybe you won’t even notice they’re at the party.
There are so many little things in live that we agonize over that aren’t worth the energy.  Trust me, sometimes its worth the energy it takes to push past what you naturally want to do, to relieve yourself of the inner conflict.

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