Personal Chronicles // 07.22.2013

in-tro-vert

Article by Aba H

  1. A shy, reticent, and typically self-centred person
  2. A person predominately concerned with their own thoughts and feelings rather than with external things (google)

The past 2 years have been self-awareness years where I’ve tried to understand who I am. I’m not talking about understanding myself based on external parameters like “what does it mean to be an African” type of a self-discovery but self-awareness based on internal parameters.

I’ve always been someone who enjoys my own company and wouldn’t mind going out to a cinema or a restaurant alone so as to enjoy my inner thoughts. I’ve always been someone who is slow to speak  and quick to listen. Calm.  A deep thinker, a daydreamer, exhausted by crowds and crazy about authentic one on one relationships.

It was only when I moved to a busy city and was constantly exhausted by Accra’s energy that I decided to do more research about temperaments and that’s when I discovered that I am an introvert and proudly so!

So, it is well known that this is an extrovert’s world: loud, full of activity and the technological boom has only compounded the problem for us introverts. Now we even have phones which follows us wherever we go. African cities are growing and ooze external stimulation. This is all quite exhausting for us introverts unlike extroverts who thrive on external stimulation.

Here are a few things you should know about us introverts:

  • Introverts are not so talkative but give us a chance to talk about something we are passionate about and we’ll talk until the cows come home;
  • We aren’t shy, we just don’t like interacting with people for the sake of it;
  • We get to the point. Don’t get it wrong, we aren’t rude.  We just don’t see the need to beat about the bush;
  • Although we enjoy our own company we like people! It just takes more work for you to get into our circle of trust and to get our respect. But once you’re in, you’re in;
  • We don’t like being out in public places. True. We like our own company and thoughts but we thrive on authentic one on one relationships;
  • We think for ourselves and don’t follow the crowd. We don’t concern ourselves with trends and fads. We are our own people;
  • We aren’t antisocial and aloof. We are just more inward than outside looking, that’s all. My thoughts are a lot more interesting than what is going on around me. That’s all.

If you can identify with these characteristics embrace your introversion. There is nothing wrong with you; you have a big contribution to make to Africa. You have your place in the world and we’ll explore that next week.

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